We have a new author on the blog! Meet Michael, my husband. He will be writing about something very important to our family. Something he is extremely passionate about- goals and motivation.
Any goal in life is simply a wish if you don’t write it down and put a date on it. I used to say that I was thinking about my goal every day. That it was always on the forefront of my mind. Many people approach their goals this way. It wasn’t until my first goal setting class that I realized how vital it was to write the goal on paper and have an accomplish-by date to go with it. Not only write the goal on paper but you also have to break it down into segments (each with an accomplish-by date) There is much more to it but this will get us started on how to stay motivated long enough to reach your goal.
As a professional salesperson for over thirty years I can tell you that I still get my teeth kicked in on a regular basis, so how can anyone continue to excel when surrounded by negativity? Zig Ziglar once said that “you become your environment” and I agree with this statement, based on my past experiences.
First and foremost, listening to quality motivational speakers. Zig Ziglar was and still is my favorite. It is amazing what happens when you’re listening to someone and all of a sudden a light clicks on and suddenly you feel like you can do anything. Your mind starts spinning with all these possibilities. You start to think you really can do this. Unfortunately, that doesn’t last forever which is why it is so important to listen on a daily basis. It may sound strange but after hearing so many other people reaching their goals, you start to really believe that you can reach yours.
I remember the first professional goal I set which was to sell 30 units in a month. I literally wrote over four pages on exactly how I was going to achieve this. Yes, I hung sticky notes on my mirror at home, on my wall at work and even in my car. Yes, I had to work a little harder, make extra calls, visit more people and work more hours. But at the end of the month when I reached 35 units I couldn’t believe it! How could it be that simple? Note that is was not easy, but simple. I simply wrote down exactly what I had to do, when I had to do it by, and then did it. I also tried to associate with as many positive people as possible and I had a great manager who really believed in me.
One of my favorite programs is the 100-day challenge by Gary Ryan Blair. My wife and I did this with our kids. It was fun and motivating. The best part was that our kids were exposed to not only positive thinking but goals and how you really break them down into smaller segments. It was this program that really opened our kid’s eyes to setting goals.
Zig would always say your attitude will determine your altitude. Think about that for a minute! To this day when someone asks me how I’m doing I will reply with, “SUPER FANTASTIC BUT I’M IMPROVING”. Corny? Mabey, but when you see that person light up and smile it’s so worth it. Funny thing is you instantly feel better yourself. I am not kidding, try it with all sincerity and a smile and see how you feel. At the very least it will certainly spark some interesting conversation.
Whatever your goal is you will achieve it faster with a great attitude. Let’s say Bob and Mike are trying to lose fifty pounds each, Bob is always saying how hard it is, “I can’t do this, I want a pizza, I’ll never make it, its too hard”. What do you think his chances of success are? On the other hand, Mike is always saying how great he is doing, he loves this, he is actually buying new clothes in the smaller size and is genuinely excited about his weight loss. You get the Idea.
Some people really believe in positive affirmations. I’m one of them. Choose four or five positive affirmations and say them out loud throughout the day. When you look in the mirror in the morning REALLY go for it. Out LOUD. Your spouse may think you lost your mind at this moment but do it anyway. Personally, I have had some interesting conversations in the mirror and I still do to this day.
There must be some kind of reward when you reach your goal. Note if your goal is to lose weight then eating a pie at the end would, well you know. But there has to be something to help you through the process. If your goal is weight loss then maybe a shopping spree at the end would be your reward. Whatever you choose needs to be real to you. Let’s continue with the shopping spree idea. You would want exact pictures of the outfits you plan to purchase. You need to know the color, size and most importantly picture yourself in that outfit. Then post pictures of your reward somewhere you will see daily. Personally, I went a little overboard with this but I am a visual person and I really cut loose on this one. If your goal is something larger and will take more than three months, break it down into segments with a reward after completing each segment.
When I was 36 yrs old I was 240 lbs and my body fat was at 37%. I was a chubby hubby! Not sure what got into me but I wanted to see my abs. I originally thought I could do it in a year ( I thought I could do anything with the right plan) But it ended up taking three years. Long story short, it was worth it. Did I fail? Well sort of, I didn’t reach one deadline during that three years. NOT ONE. But at the end, I saw my abs. I felt unbelievable. Do I think I failed? No, I succeeded late!
Couple of things to remember, Make your goal realistic. Try to surround yourself with people that believe in you. Read and listen daily to motivational speakers. Look at your immediate goal multiple times per day and don’t give up. Find a program that will help keep you accountable. Currently, I use Gary Ryan Blair, he has multiple programs that are truly amazing. Setting Goals on a regular basis will change your life!
Remember if you think you can or can’t, you’re right!
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